When I talk to people from my other home(s), their first question – after a squeal of a delight or shout of “Congratulations!” – is, “So, when’s the wedding?”
Down here among career academics, I first get asked, “Will you change your name?”
My answer is a whole-hearted, “Yes.”
For me, changing my name to his symbolizes that we are starting a new family. We are not building a home by gluing together two separate lives; we are in this business called life together, through thick and thin, unified with one goal. God created man and woman to separate from their families and hold tight to one another. Having one name shows the world our beliefs on unity in marriage in a tangible way.
(Note: I do understand that many academic women want to keep their maiden name so that they will continue to be associated with old publications. For me, with my small number of publications (1!) and my strong beliefs on unity, taking his name takes precedence. Actually, I’d still change my name if I had 40 publications.)
If that weren’t enough, Greg’s last name has so many delightful pun possibilities.